Growing your awareness of the selves - three stages

Carol is a gifted facilitator, trainer and counsellor.  She has another talent.... as 'Carolyn' she draws the most wonderful 
pictures of the selves and I have had great joy in including many of them throughout my book  'Growing Awareness'.
Carolyn's trilogy below helps illustrate what  inner self work is about                    

Stage1. Developing awareness of the selves through classic voice dialogue

Not everyone has the same selves, so getting to know your own is a key to solving many of the stressful issues in your life. This first stage is easy, enlightening, sometimes enjoyable, occasionally a bit scary.

Stage 2. Separating the selves from the ‘real’ you

While each self is a part of you, no one of them is ‘you’. As you gently separate from them you become aware of which ones are right for one situation but not in another; the ones that are helping you and the others that are holding you back.

Stage 3. Grown up adult balances and embraces opposing selves
The grown up aware adult part of you develops as you continue to understand the selves. Don’t try to ‘get rid’ of a self, however. That part of you has been working its little heart out for years, doing its best to protect you (and succeeding some of the time) until the adult side could came along. Embrace it, thank it and offer it a chance to have a short holiday but reassure it that there will be no sackings and no redundancies, it needs to be told during a dialogue session that it has a place in your heart forever. If two selves are in conflict with each other, (polar opposites) it’s the aware adult's job to  to build a balanced linkage between them also between overly strong selves, and too weak ones, while embracing them all. This is the start of real confidence, strength, peace, joy and much more in your life and of course deeper, and more intimate friendships.


As Carol herself puts it:

"Voice dialogue helped me meet, and get to know my inner selves as well-meaning friends who thought protecting me from my vulnerability included safeguarding me from discovering who the real ‘me’ was. As I grow into my real adult awareness I can, at last, truly be myself. The wonderful thing is, my ‘friends’ (my inner selves) now help me in other ways that are special for me and easier for them."

Carol Scott - Classic VOICE DIALOGUE Facilitator, Artist, Trainer and Counsellor


My special thanks to Carolyn (Carol Scott) - the facilitator who draws pictures of the selves for the trilogy of illustrations above and some more below. Carol has copyrighted her work so if you would like to reproduce it, please contact her for permission Her e-mail is 

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