The Top 100 Inner Selves

Not really - this is just a list of many typical Inner selves - there is no such thing as a Top 100 list because the selves are so unique and individual for each person

 

A LIGHT HEARTED LIST OF TYPICAL SELVES YOU MEET EACH DAY

Please don’t take this list seriously! There really is no ‘official’ list of the inner selves by name and certainly no ‘Top 100’. However many people have asked me for a list of names and this is just a rough collection. There are many more, not listed here, so feel free to add your own and drop me an E-mail telling me about them so I can include them here.
Grouping the names under different headings, as I have done, does not mean that these selves will always belong there. A primary self in my list may be one that is disowned in yours. One of your private and hidden selves may be a High Intensity self on someone else’s list. That explains why (as you will notice) I have included the same name under two or more headings.
 

 INNER SELVES OFTEN REFLECT ARCHETYPES
Inner selves are often very similar to characters from the world of drama, films and TV such as Rhett Butler, Shirley Valentine or Xena, characters from bedtime stories and ancient myths and legends such as Aphrodite, Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty; and from real life historical dramas such as George Washington or Captain Bligh. All these best loved or most hated figures have become favourites because they reflect archetype selves (the most common and most typical inner selves for so many people) so it is not at all surprising to find an inner self adopting a name that goes with their energy or personality.


SOME OF THE MOST COMMON PRIMARY SELVES INCLUDE:

Rule maker
"Caretaker 
"Pleaser "
Peacekeeper 
Inner Critic
Nurturing parent
Logical Mind
Authentic open Honest & Blunt
Pusher
Freedom Fighter

 

 

 

 

Happy Face
Responsible Parent
Rebel or Mutineer
Scheduler
Professional
Knower
Judge
Critical Parent
Permission Seeker
Victim

TYPICAL CONDITIONAL PROTECTOR PRIMARY SELVES
Commonly found selves that operate by setting up conditions for example "We'll do what you want provide you don't make us vulnerable"

Academic (Good Student)

Anaesthetist

Analyser

Caretaker

Cartoon Character

CEO (Captain)

Character Player

Cinderella

Commander

Controller

Cowboy

Defender (Soldier)

Diplomat

Doctor Parent

Doormat

Earth Mother

Evaluator

Farmer

Fixer

Good Son/Daughter

Good/Caring Parent

Happy Soul

Heavyweight Protector

Hero

Historical Figure

Inner Cynic

Inner Satirist

Intellectual Thinker

Joker/Clown

Judge

Kindly Grandparent

Lawyer

Logical Thinker

Lost In The Woods

Magistrate

Martyr

Matriarch

Moralist

Morally Pure

Mother Protector

Mother Superior

Movie Actor

Navigator

Nice Person

Nun

Omnipotent

Authentic open Honest & Blunt

Outspoken

Patriarch

Peace At Any Price

People Controller

Perfectionist

Permission Seeker

Perpetual Victim

Pleaser (Nice Self)

Politician

Power Self

Priest

Professional Self

Psychologist Parent

Pusher

Radar (Vigilant)

Rebel (Mutineer)

Relaxed

Responsible Mother

Reverend (Pastor)

Rule Maker

Satirist

Scripted

Self Critic

Self Controller

Soldier

Very Good Person

Vigilant (Radar)

CHARACTER PLAYERS

TV AND Movie Characters

Xena

Wonder Woman

Hercules

Cartoon Characters

Historical Figures

Ethnic Figures

Any of the above conditional protectors can be primary selves for you or another individual

TYPICAL HIGH INTENSITY (Dramatic Energy) SELVES
High Intensity selves are less logical, more animal and instinctual, using drama, cunning, confusion, high-levels of energy or manipulation to draw attention away from the vulnerable selves. They "protect" by being so intense that no one notices the vulnerable self behind the protector.

Always Right

Always Wrong

Avoider

Bridge Dynamiter

Captain Bligh

Catastrophiser

Confused

Denial

Distancer

Dramatic Rebel

Engulfment Avoider

Exaggerator

False Vulnerability

Generaliser

Hanging Judge

Intimacy Avoider

Knower Group

Matriarch

Medicator/Addict

Negative Parent

Negative-controller

Out of Control

Parent-critic

Patriarch

Psychologist Parent

Psychological Knower

Punisher

Rebel

Resentment

Scapegoat

Seductive

Snobbish (Stu

TYPICAL DISEMPOWERING (YOU CAN’T DO IT) SELVES

Disempowering selves stop you experiencing your real power, your real ability and block your emotional growth, because they believe their way is the best for keeping you out of pain. They treat the risk of vulnerability as being as bad as vulnerability itself and they associate ‘taking action’ with the of risk, pain or worse. These are the selves that are often most responsible for disowning your natural power selves and your adult ‘I Can Do It’ abilities.

Avoider

Catastrophiser

Chronically Unaware

Confused

Denial

Distancer

Don’t Expect Too Much

False Vulnerability

Fear of Intimacy

Fear of Anger

Fear of Failure

Fear of Success

Forgetful

Leave It To Others

Medicator / Addict

Negative-controller

Permission Seeker

Pessimist

Procrastinator

Scapegoat

Untruthful

Victim

We Can’t Do It

We Can’t Win

TYPICAL DISOWNED SELVES
Even the disowned selves are protectors, in the sense that by staying disowned, they save the vulnerable selves from being shamed, blamed or hurt. By keeping right out of the picture, they do not put the vulnerable selves at risk.

Adulterer/fornicator
Adventurer
Amway person
Angry Child
Animal
Aphrodite (Goddess of Love)
Bard
Crude/Vulgar
Don Juan
Dionysius (God of Ecstasy)
Experimenter
Explorer
Fantasy Person
Gay
Gypsy
Inner Goddess
Immoral
Jezebel
Joy
Lost Child
Magical Mystical Child
Marketer Merchandiser
Mutineer
Natural Anger

 

Authentic open and honest
Peace keeper
Pirate
Resentment
Romantic
Self Centred
Sensual Lover
Sexual Self
Tiger/cat
Whore
Wicked/Demonic
Wild one

SOME TYPICAL PRIVATE AND HIDDEN (VULNERABLE) PARTS

The private and hidden (too vulnerable) parts or not really selves. Rather they are parts of our personailty that the inner selves are wanting to protect. These are the parts that help you to get closer to others and to yourself, and give you the power to show your most vulnerable feelings. It is the openness and naturalness of the private parts that makes them (and you) lovable, worth nurturing, caring for, protecting and safe to be with.

Abandoned
Spiritual Self
Randy/Flirt
Warrior
Rebel
Great Lover
Lost child
Rule Breaker
Guilty
Frightened
Lonely
Worthless
Resentful
Vulnerable child

NOTE: In the Growing Awareness program the term "Aware Adult" is not the same as or used used in place of the "Aware Ego" as Hal and Sidra use the term. The term "Aware Adult" also reflects many of the characteristics of the part Hal and Sidra call the "Awareness Self" or "The Watcher"  I find this variation easier for Australians to understand, particularly as the term "ego" in Australia has so many different connotations and meanings for people (some of them quite negative)

 

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